The common fears are:
- losing friends
- appearing judgmental
- not knowing how to answer their questions
On the second issue, criticism often arises from a common misunderstanding about Christianity. Most people believe this equation:
Being Good = Being a Christian
Therefore, if you are hinting that you are a Christian and they are not, they understand you to imply that you are better than they are. Clearly this stands the Gospel on its head and the sooner you correct their misunderstandings the better!
On the third issue, there is really no excuse. 'Common things occur commonly!' The following seven questions were spelled out by Paul Little in his best selling book 'How to give away your faith' (IVP) as the most common asked. If you haven't thought through them then you deserve to break into a cold sweat each time you share your faith. (More than that, it might be the reason why you get so few opportunites..... After all, if you were God, would you give good opportunities to people who would botch it?!)
Seven Deadly Questions
- Is Christ the only way to God?
- Isn't the Bible full of errors?
- Isn't Christian experience only psychological?
- How can miracles be possible?
- What about those who have never heard the Gospel?
- Why do the innocent suffer?
- Won't a good moral life get me to heaven?
- There's no proof.
- Christianity is irrelevant.
- I've never really thought about it.
- The biggest obstacle is the church.
- There's so much suffering in the world.
- Christianity can't be the only way to God.
The Real Question
Of course the real reason people do not follow Christ is not an intellectual one but a moral one. They are not prepared to repent! But before they can see this clearly, the intellectual debris must be cleared away effectively.